Today the moment I landed in school, I crashed into Fr's mother. She was very very angry..!
Yesterday why was he given diapers the whole day and still wet his underwear? He has also been scolded by the new teacher Mgt which is why he is very afraid to come to school now and he couldn't sleep the whole night because of his fear.
"I want only you to handle my child, not the new teacher. She is not a good teacher. She doesn't understand him the way you do. He should not go to her. Yesterday when I met her she said many unpleasant things to me also. I am very angry."
.....and I was not shocked.
Its true we kept him in diapers till the sleeping time but that was because we were waiting for him to poo. When he didn't till a long time I took off his diaper but then he had to go to bed and given a diaper again. When he woke up I told Mgt not to put on his diaper; she didn't but blundered by not taking him to pee and so he soaked his underwear just when he was about to be picked up. His wet clothes were enough to make her temperature rise to boiling point; the rest of the damage was done by Mgt who told her unwisely point blank that Fr is not ready yet for potty training and needs to wear diapers again.
Mgt is making a lot of mistakes for our group...!
I like Mgt a lot and admire her for a number of personal qualities but this fact cannot be denied that her presence between myself and Cl is a discordant factor. She loves children a lot but has never worked with such young children before so her inefficiency hampers the group in not one or two but many respects. She disrupts the discipline in the group by encouraging the children to run and scream whether in class or in toilet; when we are handling the children on toilets she just keeps standing without even stopping them from playing with water and wetting themselves. When she changes diapers she drops their poo pieces everywhere without being aware of them. We are allowed to speak only German and English to the children - the German teachers speak only German and the English ones speak only English - but she talks Spanish to Spanish children and Italian to the Italian which is not a good thing to do since we aim to teach them English and German in school and not the children's mother tongue. Her way of talking with the parents is different - they get offended.
She treats the children like babies like carrying them in her arms all the times when they can too easily walk, run and jump, spoon feeding them when they are perfectly able to eat by themselves - result? Now many children want to be picked up in arms and carried even to the toilet!
She is also too slow. When she comes to help me wake up the children and dress them, by the time she wakes up one child and finishes his dressing, I get finished with eight or nine! The same for toilets and diaper changing.
Our strategies for dealing with different types of temperaments is also different. Both Cl and I accurately assess when we need to love and sympathize with a child and when we need to ignore so we can calm down and cheer up children when they are sad or unhappy by being gently loving and the deliberately attention demanding ones are ignored so they learn to behave themselves but Mgt doesn't let this happen; she keeps on loving them till they get too spoiled to handle.
Mrn is one such a spoilt girl. You look at her and she will burst out crying for absolutely NO reason. You ignore her and she is fine in a minute, playing and laughing just like any other kid. The same with Sf. Whenever she catches your eye she starts clutching her skirt, making a sorrowful, frightened, tortured face telling you she wants to pee. You don't look at her and she is fine - NO pee!. I wish Mgt would understand this and listen to me. She keeps cuddling and cosseting Mrn so much that Mrn cries the whole time. I told her many times she needs to be ignored for there is no reason for her to be so unhappy but Mgt doesn't listen.
Both I and Cl are afraid to voice our concerns even to each other. I don't like talking against Mgt as she is undoubtedly a nice person and Cl fears she can't talk to me against her as she is a nice friend of mine. And we both are too discreet - and afraid- to want to talk to her directly about these issues for fear of offending her. She is so much our senior. Even if she is absent for 10 minutes from our group our group is nice and on track. Her presence is ruining our quality on all grounds.
Yesterday why was he given diapers the whole day and still wet his underwear? He has also been scolded by the new teacher Mgt which is why he is very afraid to come to school now and he couldn't sleep the whole night because of his fear.
"I want only you to handle my child, not the new teacher. She is not a good teacher. She doesn't understand him the way you do. He should not go to her. Yesterday when I met her she said many unpleasant things to me also. I am very angry."
.....and I was not shocked.
Its true we kept him in diapers till the sleeping time but that was because we were waiting for him to poo. When he didn't till a long time I took off his diaper but then he had to go to bed and given a diaper again. When he woke up I told Mgt not to put on his diaper; she didn't but blundered by not taking him to pee and so he soaked his underwear just when he was about to be picked up. His wet clothes were enough to make her temperature rise to boiling point; the rest of the damage was done by Mgt who told her unwisely point blank that Fr is not ready yet for potty training and needs to wear diapers again.
Mgt is making a lot of mistakes for our group...!
I like Mgt a lot and admire her for a number of personal qualities but this fact cannot be denied that her presence between myself and Cl is a discordant factor. She loves children a lot but has never worked with such young children before so her inefficiency hampers the group in not one or two but many respects. She disrupts the discipline in the group by encouraging the children to run and scream whether in class or in toilet; when we are handling the children on toilets she just keeps standing without even stopping them from playing with water and wetting themselves. When she changes diapers she drops their poo pieces everywhere without being aware of them. We are allowed to speak only German and English to the children - the German teachers speak only German and the English ones speak only English - but she talks Spanish to Spanish children and Italian to the Italian which is not a good thing to do since we aim to teach them English and German in school and not the children's mother tongue. Her way of talking with the parents is different - they get offended.
She treats the children like babies like carrying them in her arms all the times when they can too easily walk, run and jump, spoon feeding them when they are perfectly able to eat by themselves - result? Now many children want to be picked up in arms and carried even to the toilet!
She is also too slow. When she comes to help me wake up the children and dress them, by the time she wakes up one child and finishes his dressing, I get finished with eight or nine! The same for toilets and diaper changing.
Our strategies for dealing with different types of temperaments is also different. Both Cl and I accurately assess when we need to love and sympathize with a child and when we need to ignore so we can calm down and cheer up children when they are sad or unhappy by being gently loving and the deliberately attention demanding ones are ignored so they learn to behave themselves but Mgt doesn't let this happen; she keeps on loving them till they get too spoiled to handle.
Mrn is one such a spoilt girl. You look at her and she will burst out crying for absolutely NO reason. You ignore her and she is fine in a minute, playing and laughing just like any other kid. The same with Sf. Whenever she catches your eye she starts clutching her skirt, making a sorrowful, frightened, tortured face telling you she wants to pee. You don't look at her and she is fine - NO pee!. I wish Mgt would understand this and listen to me. She keeps cuddling and cosseting Mrn so much that Mrn cries the whole time. I told her many times she needs to be ignored for there is no reason for her to be so unhappy but Mgt doesn't listen.
Both I and Cl are afraid to voice our concerns even to each other. I don't like talking against Mgt as she is undoubtedly a nice person and Cl fears she can't talk to me against her as she is a nice friend of mine. And we both are too discreet - and afraid- to want to talk to her directly about these issues for fear of offending her. She is so much our senior. Even if she is absent for 10 minutes from our group our group is nice and on track. Her presence is ruining our quality on all grounds.
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