Yesterday due to being Friday and a really cold weather with just about -11 degrees there were only six children present in our group; in addition Asy was also absent on account of a bad migraine. So I and Cl stretched our 40 minute morning circle time to nearly one hour and fifteen minutes and half the time we were chatting comfortable because Asy was absent. Asy is very nice but we don't feel intimate enough in front of her for fear of being indiscreet. We have to remember that she is acquainted to Stf the boss through her boyfriend and may carry tales up.
So, Cl told me how Stf has been trying to persuade her to stay using a variety of hideous reasons which shocked and stunned her.
"Stf said that I am being emotional and foolish in resigning from such a good job here just because my boyfriend is shifting to another place.
"Just consider; he will have a good job and you? You are losing your very good job because of him! Tomorrow he will find for himself another girlfriend and then you would really be very sorry. And which city are you shifting to? Oh, that is the worst city in entire Germany. It is so tiny, it doesn't have any opportunity for you. Maybe you could travel up and down everyday? The town where you are going to is not very far from here, is it?
Yes, it is. It takes about three hours to get there. I said.
"Three hours...Hmmm. You can travel this much if you want to."
No, I can't. It would mean spending my entire day in the train.
"Could you not could stay here and go visit your boyfriend on weekend?"
But I want to be with my boyfriend and spend time with him.
"And how much time do you spend with him right now? You leave him at about 6 in the morning and he comes back at about 7 or 9 at night. Its not really much. I am just trying to tell you that you should think about your own future and not your boy friend's. Should you change your mind you can always give me call any time, even if it is 2 am in the night.
Her reasons nearly broke me down. I know that place is very small; too small to have a big school, leave alone a big international kindergarten where I want to work. I know it would be difficult to get myself another job of my choice. I am trying so hard to stay positive and hoping that all would be well but the way she talked to me I was so shocked and horrified. I am sure she hates my boyfriend."
I felt so bad for dear Cl but I had a different point of view.
"I agree Stf is being so mean and horrendous to you but on the other hand, I think, you should feel flattered that she said all that nasty stuff just to persuade you to change your mind which really signifies that she finds you so valuable and so indispensible. As to jobs, don't worry; you will never have a dearth of jobs. You are a hard working and a dedicated teacher. In fact I suggest that since your English is better than that of the English teachers of this school and you speak and write it as well as your German, I think you can even consider becoming an English teacher."
I rather think she is extremely courageous to take such a deep plunge and still be able to think positive. I would have been down in the dumps for ages. I have thought she had a sacrificing compromising selfless character and this is the glaring example. Ordinarily girls don't dump their career for the sake of their boyfriend's future.
She will probably leave the next week and as yet we don't know - we have not been informed - who will replace her. Probably Ndn, probably someone new, and, I have not the least idea who would be better...!
Honestly speaking I have stopped thinking about this issue. I will meet it as it will come. No other option.
So, Cl told me how Stf has been trying to persuade her to stay using a variety of hideous reasons which shocked and stunned her.
"Stf said that I am being emotional and foolish in resigning from such a good job here just because my boyfriend is shifting to another place.
"Just consider; he will have a good job and you? You are losing your very good job because of him! Tomorrow he will find for himself another girlfriend and then you would really be very sorry. And which city are you shifting to? Oh, that is the worst city in entire Germany. It is so tiny, it doesn't have any opportunity for you. Maybe you could travel up and down everyday? The town where you are going to is not very far from here, is it?
Yes, it is. It takes about three hours to get there. I said.
"Three hours...Hmmm. You can travel this much if you want to."
No, I can't. It would mean spending my entire day in the train.
"Could you not could stay here and go visit your boyfriend on weekend?"
But I want to be with my boyfriend and spend time with him.
"And how much time do you spend with him right now? You leave him at about 6 in the morning and he comes back at about 7 or 9 at night. Its not really much. I am just trying to tell you that you should think about your own future and not your boy friend's. Should you change your mind you can always give me call any time, even if it is 2 am in the night.
Her reasons nearly broke me down. I know that place is very small; too small to have a big school, leave alone a big international kindergarten where I want to work. I know it would be difficult to get myself another job of my choice. I am trying so hard to stay positive and hoping that all would be well but the way she talked to me I was so shocked and horrified. I am sure she hates my boyfriend."
I felt so bad for dear Cl but I had a different point of view.
"I agree Stf is being so mean and horrendous to you but on the other hand, I think, you should feel flattered that she said all that nasty stuff just to persuade you to change your mind which really signifies that she finds you so valuable and so indispensible. As to jobs, don't worry; you will never have a dearth of jobs. You are a hard working and a dedicated teacher. In fact I suggest that since your English is better than that of the English teachers of this school and you speak and write it as well as your German, I think you can even consider becoming an English teacher."
I rather think she is extremely courageous to take such a deep plunge and still be able to think positive. I would have been down in the dumps for ages. I have thought she had a sacrificing compromising selfless character and this is the glaring example. Ordinarily girls don't dump their career for the sake of their boyfriend's future.
She will probably leave the next week and as yet we don't know - we have not been informed - who will replace her. Probably Ndn, probably someone new, and, I have not the least idea who would be better...!
Honestly speaking I have stopped thinking about this issue. I will meet it as it will come. No other option.
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