Sv's father was supposed to come at 4 pm today for the meeting and we all were fearing that he might fight with us.
We requested Stf to be present with us during the meeting but she was busy so My decided she would be there with us in the capacity of the manager. I made a detailed list of questions I wanted to ask him and a list of things that needed explanation. Cl found a list of special schools which help children overcome troubles like aggression, hyper activity or other behavioral problems.
He was punctual. I was surprised and disgusted to see him chewing tobacco in his mouth, fine particles of which flew out several times when he was speaking.
I started by greeting him politely which he answered rather stiffly. I showed him Sv's craft activity folder which he disinterestedly flicked 2-3 pages out of at least 30-40 and shoved it aside. I gave him his daily diary but he didn't even open it.
I asked him what activities does Sv do at home. He sarcastically replied.
"You know he stays in school from 9 am to 5 pm. You yourself tell what activity will he do after this? He eats then goes to sleep."
"What does he do on weekends?"
" He plays like normal children." He answered irritatingly and extremely rudely which we found offensive.
" Let me tell you, my child is normal. He doesn't like the school because his teachers especially you do not treat him properly. You punish him and he complains at home that you have been hitting him and punishing him. He has become afraid of the school. He doesn't want to come to school anymore."
"This is not true." We cried. "He has NEVER been punished or even scolded, leave alone hitting. He did some serious mischiefs several times but we only made him sit in a chair a few feet away from the main group and that is all. And he is not afraid of the school; he likes being here and enjoys playing the whole day. He loves us enough. He comes and sits in our lap. "
"I do not believe you. My child has said that you have hit him and that he has been punished. I have to believe my child.Children don't tell lies."
" Precisely." Said My in German."Your child has been telling us also some things which we have every reason to believe. He has told us many times that both of you hit him and that once your wife was cutting his hair and he got bruised on his cheek because of the scissors."
He was stunned for half a second, then he quietly answered. " Sorry, what did you say? I do not understand German."
"Really? But I have myself heard you and your wife speak German on other occasions. I am sure you understand German." I said. He was caught at a lie which he didn't like at all. He lamely reiterated that he didn't know German.
Then we asked him how Sv had got hurt so badly on his left cheek.
"My wife must be knowing about it. I have no idea. I will call her and ask her."
"You mean you are the father but you don't know how did your child got hurt?"
He rang his wife and asked her and then started lashing us back.
"My child got hurt in school. He had fallen down from the swing."
"That's not right. He doesn't go in any of those swings. He was in front of our eyes the whole day and we know he hadn't fallen anywhere at all."
"I know my child got hurt in school because in the morning he was alright. And when my wife asked Mk about the bruise Mk told her that he fallen from the swing in the playground."
"That's wrong again. Mk asked your wife about the bruise and she told him that he had fallen from the swing."
"Then Mk is telling a lie."
He grew very unpleasant now. He was speaking so rudely and was using such insolent gestures, tones and even looks that we had to tell him several times that he ought to display some manners considering he was in kindergarten and speaking to teachers.
He started hurling false allegations on us like hitting, punishing his child, not giving him food and keeping him hungry, asking for doctor reports which we didn't have any right to, destroying him, our telling lies, Mk telling lies and several others. His language and tone became so unbearable that My had to terminate the meeting saying,
"It is impossible to talk to you. You do not want to listen to us. You do not trust us. This meeting was to discuss some problems which Sv was having in the school and we were having regarding him. We wanted to find out how we could together solve this problem but I see that talking is useless with you. So I now suggest that you leave this kindergarten and search another where you can be happy. I give you one day's time to decide whether you want to stay here with us or leave. Please let me know by tomorrow."
He went pale. He hadn't expected he would be asked to remove the child. But he had done the damage and there was no turning back now.
I wonder what he will do now. Will he really remove Sv? This school was very convenient for him as it was extremely close to his house and shop both. I began feeling sad for Sv now. Poor boy. His parents are too focussed on money making and have no time for him and when they do get time together they hit and punish him and have the temerity to blame it all on teachers when found out. Now I know it was all a lie that he has stopped eating and lost weight and some psychological issue. He merely wanted us to be afraid and surrender. I am very sure if we talked to his doctor we would get a different story to hear. I wish the school would report this case to child welfare authority.
And fancy his lying that he doesn't know German when I have myself heard and seen him speaking German to German people.
I have never seen such lier parents.
We requested Stf to be present with us during the meeting but she was busy so My decided she would be there with us in the capacity of the manager. I made a detailed list of questions I wanted to ask him and a list of things that needed explanation. Cl found a list of special schools which help children overcome troubles like aggression, hyper activity or other behavioral problems.
He was punctual. I was surprised and disgusted to see him chewing tobacco in his mouth, fine particles of which flew out several times when he was speaking.
I started by greeting him politely which he answered rather stiffly. I showed him Sv's craft activity folder which he disinterestedly flicked 2-3 pages out of at least 30-40 and shoved it aside. I gave him his daily diary but he didn't even open it.
I asked him what activities does Sv do at home. He sarcastically replied.
"You know he stays in school from 9 am to 5 pm. You yourself tell what activity will he do after this? He eats then goes to sleep."
"What does he do on weekends?"
" He plays like normal children." He answered irritatingly and extremely rudely which we found offensive.
" Let me tell you, my child is normal. He doesn't like the school because his teachers especially you do not treat him properly. You punish him and he complains at home that you have been hitting him and punishing him. He has become afraid of the school. He doesn't want to come to school anymore."
"This is not true." We cried. "He has NEVER been punished or even scolded, leave alone hitting. He did some serious mischiefs several times but we only made him sit in a chair a few feet away from the main group and that is all. And he is not afraid of the school; he likes being here and enjoys playing the whole day. He loves us enough. He comes and sits in our lap. "
"I do not believe you. My child has said that you have hit him and that he has been punished. I have to believe my child.Children don't tell lies."
" Precisely." Said My in German."Your child has been telling us also some things which we have every reason to believe. He has told us many times that both of you hit him and that once your wife was cutting his hair and he got bruised on his cheek because of the scissors."
He was stunned for half a second, then he quietly answered. " Sorry, what did you say? I do not understand German."
"Really? But I have myself heard you and your wife speak German on other occasions. I am sure you understand German." I said. He was caught at a lie which he didn't like at all. He lamely reiterated that he didn't know German.
Then we asked him how Sv had got hurt so badly on his left cheek.
"My wife must be knowing about it. I have no idea. I will call her and ask her."
"You mean you are the father but you don't know how did your child got hurt?"
He rang his wife and asked her and then started lashing us back.
"My child got hurt in school. He had fallen down from the swing."
"That's not right. He doesn't go in any of those swings. He was in front of our eyes the whole day and we know he hadn't fallen anywhere at all."
"I know my child got hurt in school because in the morning he was alright. And when my wife asked Mk about the bruise Mk told her that he fallen from the swing in the playground."
"That's wrong again. Mk asked your wife about the bruise and she told him that he had fallen from the swing."
"Then Mk is telling a lie."
He grew very unpleasant now. He was speaking so rudely and was using such insolent gestures, tones and even looks that we had to tell him several times that he ought to display some manners considering he was in kindergarten and speaking to teachers.
He started hurling false allegations on us like hitting, punishing his child, not giving him food and keeping him hungry, asking for doctor reports which we didn't have any right to, destroying him, our telling lies, Mk telling lies and several others. His language and tone became so unbearable that My had to terminate the meeting saying,
"It is impossible to talk to you. You do not want to listen to us. You do not trust us. This meeting was to discuss some problems which Sv was having in the school and we were having regarding him. We wanted to find out how we could together solve this problem but I see that talking is useless with you. So I now suggest that you leave this kindergarten and search another where you can be happy. I give you one day's time to decide whether you want to stay here with us or leave. Please let me know by tomorrow."
He went pale. He hadn't expected he would be asked to remove the child. But he had done the damage and there was no turning back now.
I wonder what he will do now. Will he really remove Sv? This school was very convenient for him as it was extremely close to his house and shop both. I began feeling sad for Sv now. Poor boy. His parents are too focussed on money making and have no time for him and when they do get time together they hit and punish him and have the temerity to blame it all on teachers when found out. Now I know it was all a lie that he has stopped eating and lost weight and some psychological issue. He merely wanted us to be afraid and surrender. I am very sure if we talked to his doctor we would get a different story to hear. I wish the school would report this case to child welfare authority.
And fancy his lying that he doesn't know German when I have myself heard and seen him speaking German to German people.
I have never seen such lier parents.
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