Bhv, the Indian boy and son of S's colleague, who was in our group last year is now in My and Mks group.
His birthday was in the last week of October. Mks told his mother to celebrate his birthday on another date in the first week of November as all the other dates were busy.
So yesterday was Bhv's birthday celebration in his group. When his parents handed his birthday cake to Bh and My, they stared at them blankly.
"Today is his birthday? But we didn't know. We can't celebrate his birthday today as we have two teacher's birthday party in school. The children can't eat cakes the whole day."
It was the parent's turn to stare blankly now.
"But we talked to Mks so many times. It was he who fixed the date for his birthday."
"Mks didn't tell us anything."
They were telling the truth; I had myself heard and seen both of them talk about this matter. In truth, Mks fixed the date for birthday and forgot to inform My and Bh so they had no intimation. That's why no mention of Bhv's birthday was made in the weekly plan which did strike a bit odd to the parents but they hadn't imagined this at all.
So his birthday was not celebrated yesterday. My promised them that she would keep the cake in the refrigerator and celebrate his birthday tomorrow very nicely.
Today as I was getting into my class, I glimpsed Bhv's room nicely decorated for birthday with the table all laid out and candles lit. About 15 minutes later she came running to my room.
"Do you have extra birthday gift which the school gives to children on their birthday? "
"Why? What happened?"
" I had forgotten. Today is two more children's birthday in our group...."
Really! How very careless and clumsy...!
When we were in the playground, I learnt with a shock that Sbr, a new German trainee teacher in Mk's group is resigning. She was a nice teacher and good with Mk and the kids. She later came to tell me that she had an argument with My and Mz.
I have yet to learn what happened and how...
A new English teacher Jln from Columbia has been found. She is currently working in Mk's group as Jn's replacement. Jn had to migrate to Mz's group to replace Mri but he too has resigned now. So Mz's group is without an English teacher since the whole of October...
I occasionally learnt from another teacher today that yesterday Cl had invited the school staff to a nearby restaurant for drinks to celebrate her birthday and engagement. I recalled her telling me causally that after work the teachers were going for drinks to a restaurant. Would I come? It was so casual and nondescript. Not the least bit sounding like an invitation or even information. I was surprised that actually she had hosted it and didn't even tell me. Now that definitely is mean.
I couldn't help feeling a bit chilled towards Cl. I am deeply regretting my decision to give her such a costly gift which may well reach above 100 Euros. A wicked thought sneaked into my mind that if My raises an objection to the hotel receipt which says 20 Euros charged for eating and drinking, then I would immediately cancel the dinner gift and tell her it was because of My's objection. This unfortunately didn't happen because My looked at the receipt and readily paid me 20 Euros.
Well...I cannot keep thinking about Cl all my life. I have to be positive in my thoughts and approach and remember that I have more things to be grateful for than to be sorry about.
I should actually admire her for being so professional and diplomatic. True. We are not here to make enemies or friends. We are here to work. The more smoothly and successfully we work the better. I should learn from her how to make people believe you are their best friend when actually you don't give them a damn.
So now I am going to seriously follow these rules for myself:
Try to be friends with everyone and enemy of none.
Don't get personal with anyone.
Don't share tips with Cl. let her grapple alone.
Don't share any gossip or news with Cl.
Don't discuss any teacher or group with her.
His birthday was in the last week of October. Mks told his mother to celebrate his birthday on another date in the first week of November as all the other dates were busy.
So yesterday was Bhv's birthday celebration in his group. When his parents handed his birthday cake to Bh and My, they stared at them blankly.
"Today is his birthday? But we didn't know. We can't celebrate his birthday today as we have two teacher's birthday party in school. The children can't eat cakes the whole day."
It was the parent's turn to stare blankly now.
"But we talked to Mks so many times. It was he who fixed the date for his birthday."
"Mks didn't tell us anything."
They were telling the truth; I had myself heard and seen both of them talk about this matter. In truth, Mks fixed the date for birthday and forgot to inform My and Bh so they had no intimation. That's why no mention of Bhv's birthday was made in the weekly plan which did strike a bit odd to the parents but they hadn't imagined this at all.
So his birthday was not celebrated yesterday. My promised them that she would keep the cake in the refrigerator and celebrate his birthday tomorrow very nicely.
Today as I was getting into my class, I glimpsed Bhv's room nicely decorated for birthday with the table all laid out and candles lit. About 15 minutes later she came running to my room.
"Do you have extra birthday gift which the school gives to children on their birthday? "
"Why? What happened?"
" I had forgotten. Today is two more children's birthday in our group...."
Really! How very careless and clumsy...!
When we were in the playground, I learnt with a shock that Sbr, a new German trainee teacher in Mk's group is resigning. She was a nice teacher and good with Mk and the kids. She later came to tell me that she had an argument with My and Mz.
I have yet to learn what happened and how...
A new English teacher Jln from Columbia has been found. She is currently working in Mk's group as Jn's replacement. Jn had to migrate to Mz's group to replace Mri but he too has resigned now. So Mz's group is without an English teacher since the whole of October...
I occasionally learnt from another teacher today that yesterday Cl had invited the school staff to a nearby restaurant for drinks to celebrate her birthday and engagement. I recalled her telling me causally that after work the teachers were going for drinks to a restaurant. Would I come? It was so casual and nondescript. Not the least bit sounding like an invitation or even information. I was surprised that actually she had hosted it and didn't even tell me. Now that definitely is mean.
I couldn't help feeling a bit chilled towards Cl. I am deeply regretting my decision to give her such a costly gift which may well reach above 100 Euros. A wicked thought sneaked into my mind that if My raises an objection to the hotel receipt which says 20 Euros charged for eating and drinking, then I would immediately cancel the dinner gift and tell her it was because of My's objection. This unfortunately didn't happen because My looked at the receipt and readily paid me 20 Euros.
Well...I cannot keep thinking about Cl all my life. I have to be positive in my thoughts and approach and remember that I have more things to be grateful for than to be sorry about.
I should actually admire her for being so professional and diplomatic. True. We are not here to make enemies or friends. We are here to work. The more smoothly and successfully we work the better. I should learn from her how to make people believe you are their best friend when actually you don't give them a damn.
So now I am going to seriously follow these rules for myself:
Try to be friends with everyone and enemy of none.
Don't get personal with anyone.
Don't share tips with Cl. let her grapple alone.
Don't share any gossip or news with Cl.
Don't discuss any teacher or group with her.
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